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Freedom to be Curly for Little Girlies

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Smooth. Sleek. Straight.  Edges must be controlled. Flyaways must be tamed. Seems like as a woman with curly hair only thing you have freedom to do when it comes to your hair is it choose what products you will buy to beat it into submission.  For most of my life, this is what hair care boiled down to – fixing what was wrong with my hair. Apparently, nothing about my hair in its natural state was good.  My edges definitely defied control, and my whole head was a fly away.  The thick curls didn’t lend themselves to smoothness, were the antithesis of straight, and as far as anything being sleek – not happening.  I accepted that my hair NEEDED to be FIXED.  It had to lie down.  Problem is – my hair wasn’t meant to lie down.

My mom’s cabinet had all kinds of things to “fix” my hair. Hot afro pick, hot comb, hot oil (looks like “hot” was important in the fixing process) were all front and center.  Then there was the blow dryer, various brushes, combs, detanglers, sprays, lotions, creams, rubber bands, and clips, and I was convinced that my hair was something to be conquered on a bi weekly basis.  My hair was an ordeal.

You’ll be hard pressed to find a child of Caribbean heritage who has not had plaits so tight that they had difficulty sleeping or even blinking for at least a day after getting their hair “done.” The control exercised in the house over a child’s behavior certainly extended to each and every follicle on a girl’s head as well.

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Eva the author of Anancy's Family Reunion, and the winner of the 2012 Black Weblog Awards for Best Parenting Blog and Best New Blog. Find her on Twitter at @socamomdc.

Socamom's "Pinventory" - How I Got My Fabulous Back with Some Advice from Essence Magazine's Constance C. R. White

Each morning I feel to crawl right back into bed when I have to think about what to wear. I eventually drag myself to my closet, which is in disarray ninety nine percent of the time.  On a weekend, I'll force myself to get it all organized, it looks wonderful, I find clothes I forgot I had, I get excited, and I look fabulous for about a week - that is until I come in late from an event or a movie with the kids, and I fail to hang up a sweater... or I wash clothes, and never take the folded clothes out of the basket... or I come back from a trip and just start getting dressed out of the suitcase (I have a habit of washing ALL our clothes before we get back from any trip - it just makes life easier - sometimes).

When I had the opportunity to ask the Editor in Chief of Essence Magazine how to get my fabulous back as a busy mom, she had just two words for me... Get. Organized. Had she been in my closet?

Here's part of my interview with Constance C. R. White - she talks with me about how she keeps her kids connected to Caribbean Culture.

Like me, Constance C. R. White is a super busy Caribbean American mom of three. Unlike me - she STAYS looking amazing. As a culture and style expert, she has been setting and reporting on trends for years. Her work has appeared in British Vogue and Glamour, and she is the author of StyleNoir - the First Guide to Fashion Written with Black Women in Mind. A former associate editor for Women's Wear Daily and W magazine, style reporter for the New York Times, former fashion editor for the Talk and Elle Magazine, and now as the current Editor in Chief of Essence Magazine, it is literally her job to know how to keep women looking good.

When Constance C. R. White tells me that I need to get organized, I do just that.

I asked myself, "What do I spend time doing that keeps me from getting organized? What do I do best?" These days, the answer has been - take pictures, and Pinterest.  From there, I came up with a plan to create a "Pinventory".  Who says that Pinterest is just for clothes that you wish you had - why not for clothes you ALREADY have? I take photographs of my clothes, shoes, and accessories, then add them to my private board on Pinterest.  Why private? I don't want the world to know exactly what's in my closet.  Why Pin it?  1) I have the Pinterest app on my phone, and I can check out what's in my closet while I am at the store to make sure I'm not wasting money on something I don't need, or check to see that something matches, 2) When I'm shopping online, it is pretty easy to open another tab or window, go to Pinterest and make sure that I'm making purchases that make sense with what I already have.  You can never have too many black flats... or can you? You can easily check your "Pinventory" before you spend money on something you won't need. 3) On a good day, I check my phone for email, texts, and missed calls before I get out of bed.  I can check my Pinventory too, so that I can get dressed quickly.

Create a Pinventory to help you keep track of your wardrobe :: Socamom.com

I used the Sunpak 620-EBOX Camera Light to take this photograph for my "Pinventory".

Create a Pinventory to help you keep track of your wardrobe :: Socamom.com

I used the Sunpak 620-EBOX Camera Light to take this photograph for my "Pinventory".

Create a Pinventory to help you keep track of your wardrobe :: Socamom.com

I used the Sunpak 620-EBOX Camera Light to take this photograph for my "Pinventory".

Create a Pinventory to help you keep track of your wardrobe :: Socamom.com

I used the Sunpak 620-EBOX Camera Light to take this photograph for my "Pinventory".

Create a Pinventory to help you keep track of your wardrobe :: Socamom.com

I used the Sunpak 620-EBOX Camera Light to take this photograph for my "Pinventory".

Another tip she shared with me was to pre-plan whole outfits. To keep myself from tearing up my closet and destroying all my hard work - there's Polyvore.  Polyvore allows you to upload your own images to create outfits as well.  Since you have already taken pictures for your "Pinventory", take it one step further with Polyvore(If enough of you want a tutorial on how to make your backgrounds transparent for Polyvore, I'll make one and post it - just leave me a comment here).  Between your own personal "Pinventory" and Polyvore, you can get organized quickly and easily.

Thanks to some much needed advice from Constance C. R. White - I am well on my way to returning to fashionista-mom status.

Do you plan to try this to get organized?  What do you do to keep your wardrobe organized?

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Eva the author of Anancy's Family Reunion, and the winner of the 2012 Black Weblog Awards for Best Parenting Blog and Best New Blog. Find her on Twitter at @socamomdc.

Shoe Deal of the Day: Wedge Sneaker for $35 (Black Friday Special)

Source: jcpenney.com via Eva on Pinterest

 

I have been looking at getting this shoe for a few months now, but since my boys' shoes have gotten considerably more expensive, I couldn't justify paying $50 dollars for one pair of shoes - a trendy pair at that. I rarely do trends, and if I do, they need to meet three criteria:

  1. They have to be inexpensive - I don't want to spend a lot of money for something that I may only wear one or two seasons.  I am somebody's mom, but I still want to look and feel cute... I think that's fair.
  2. They have to be comfortable - I'll be pretty upset if I end up with corns and blisters because of a shoe that I only got to wear for a few months.  I mean, I don't do uncomfortable shoes anyway, but still.
  3. They have to be reasonable - I am blah blah years old, and I do feel like it is important to at least act AROUND my age.  I liked these because they are conservative enough, but not boring, and can go with a cute, fluffy sweater, nice handbag, and some dark skinny jeans - give trendy fall - without giving "trying too hard to look young".

This comes in black too - very conservative, but really cute too.  They are on sale for Black Friday on JCPenney.com, for $35.

How do you deal with being on trend on a budget?

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Eva the author of Anancy's Family Reunion, and the winner of the 2012 Black Weblog Awards for Best Parenting Blog and Best New Blog. Find her on Twitter at @socamomdc.

Mom's Night Out or Date Night - Right Now, I'll Take Either One

 

I haven't had a "Mom's Night Out" in quite a while. For me, it is putting on something cute, fun, but still comfortable - going out and having a good time without having to say, "Put that back. Stop that. Don't touch that. Do you hear me? Get your hand out of your mouth. Come here...." And the list goes on.

Sometimes, I just need a break. A real break. Not the fake break that is a vacation with the kids.  That is just doing mommy stuff and saying mommy stuff - somewhere else.

Every now and then I get a full Mom's weekend, in the form of a blogging conference or a date weekend.

Last time the hubby and I dropped the kids off and ran away from home to Philly, I had a blast.  I got to wear this cute sequinned skirt and some ridiculous shoes, and we went out and ate food that wouldn't get either one of us full, but that we couldn't afford if we had to feed the kids too.  They actually require that we fill them up.

So this is the next Mom's Night Out or Date Night outfit that I plan to put together.  I have all the parts... now I just need the time...

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Eva the author of Anancy's Family Reunion, and the winner of the 2012 Black Weblog Awards for Best Parenting Blog and Best New Blog. Find her on Twitter at @socamomdc.

Shoe Deals of the Day: Cabin Fever Edition

Two days in the house.  I have yet to really do anything on my "to do for me" list, like organize my shoes, for fear that I'd get started, get in a groove, and Miss Sandy would be like, "no ma'am" and snatch out a power line.

We haven't lost power or anything, so school is still in for us - but the darkness and wind has made us all sleepy and a little blah.

Now I just NEED some sunshine - and some shoes. Nothing beats some good online shopping to break my cabin fever - so here are some that I found that made me smile...

Find these on 6pm.com and NineWest.com

Mad I didn't get the flowery ones when they were on sale - but I'm watchin' to see if they go on sale again.  I don't care if there are no flowers out in the fall and winter - they can be on my feet, no problem.  Love the boots. Makes me want to tie something around some boots that I already have. And these red beauties from NineWest.com - don't come in my size... "NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!" I'm okay though.  Even though I can't have it - you can still enjoy them... in red, black, or camel!

Enjoy and stay safe...

I am a 6pm.com and a NineWest.com  shopper, when the budget allows, but I was not compensated in any way for writing this post. For more information on sponsored posts, click on About.

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Eva the author of Anancy's Family Reunion, and the winner of the 2012 Black Weblog Awards for Best Parenting Blog and Best New Blog. Find her on Twitter at @socamomdc.

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