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Everyone from Toronto to Melbourne said that his cover of Bob Marley’s “Waiting in Vain” was magical. I wish I could find a video to share with you, but I can’t… I guess I’ll never see it for myself… or hear it. Musicians from my life soundtrack keep dying.
A friend of mine’s big sister had his album back when I was in, oh I dunno, second, maybe third grade - I think. We were at her house and we had a dance contest. I remember having no idea what I was doing, but they told me I was a good dancer. I decided to believe them. Something about his songs made me feel alive and powerful and talented. That day made me believe that I could actually do something that I clearly… could… not… do.
That was the magic of Prince. Everything he did and was defied all superstar logic. He was 5’ 2”, wore high heels, and his eye makeup game was on point at all times. His skin, at 57, looked like he washed it three times a day in the tears that those doves were crying… Within 45 minutes of his death he was number one on iTunes. He shouldn’t have been a star… He should still be with us, not among the stars. I shouldn’t have been a dancer. But he was. But he is. But I am.
Rest in peace Prince Rogers Nelson. June 7, 1958 – April 21, 2016.Add a comment
This is a sponsored post. As usual, all opinions are my own.
I’ll be finishing up my second year of law school, and I can’t wait for summer to begin. Unlike traditional law students who are looking forward to trying out law firm or clerk life, I am looking forward to spending time with my kids, working on my blog, and heading to the beach for some much needed (and well deserved) R & R. I’ll be using Groupon Coupons to get all of my summer shenanigans done… for less.Add a comment Read more...
As a Caribbean woman, I was taught very well defined gender roles. Whether or not those played out in real life is another blog post for another day. When my brother played a sport, he got the best of everything – equipment, shoes… when it was my turn? Not so much. “Why am I buying my girl child gym boots anyway?” They would reluctantly buy my basketball hightops, but with little fanfare, and even less money spent. The same went for my soccer cleats… I brushed this off as just the way things were, but I couldn’t imagine saying this to my li’l bit. Caribbean women are used to getting this contradictory information from their parents. You can (and must) do and be whatever you want to be, and must not let anyone deter you. (YES!) However, men get special privileges and consideration when it comes to just about everything. (WHAT?) It was really very confusing.
This morning, I gave my daughter a writing prompt that opened her eyes just a little wider to how the world sees her as a girl. I am in law school, and when appropriate, we talk about the cases that I am reading. We have talked about equal protection and Title IX before, so when I gave her the opportunity to do research and write about her ideas on wage equality in professional sports, she went straight to her copy of the Constitution. I gave her some statistics and the text of Title IX. Armed with the Constitution, Declaration of Independence, and some of the history books on her shelf (she’s a big history buff), she set out to prove that women deserve equal pay in professional sports too.
Every now and then she’d run into the room and ask questions like, “What are government subsidies? What is a salary cap?” In between questions, she’d yell out from her room, “Well how unfair is THIS? So guys make WHAT? Did you know that women only make…” Before I knew it, her brainstorming note page was full, she had mapped out her argument, and her first paragraph was done. I just sat there looking at my Administrative Law outline wishing that I could be as passionate about the Administrative Procedures Act as she was about this.Add a comment Read more...
Kerry Washington at Anita Hill. Photo: HBO
Kerry Washington is getting ready to for her new project on HBO, Confirmation, in which she stars as the Yale educated lawyer who dared to call out Supreme Court Justice Clarence Thomas for sexual harassment. I don't even know how my parents thought that it was appropriate for me to be watching that trial, but I remember seeing her in her blue suit, and thinking a) that she was really shiny, and b) that she was going to lose.
Kerry Washington slays at NYC Special Screening of HBO Film 'Confirmation'
These days, unlike Anita Hill in the 1991, Kerry Washington is winning - personally and professionally. Her daughter, Isabelle Amarachi, with Nnamdi Asomugha is about to turn two this month, her TV show, Scandal, is on year four on ABC, has us all wanting to build playlists with our super amazing girlfriends after her Apple commercial with Taraji P. Henson and Mary J. Blige, and has more projects in the works.
She told USA Today that her Jamaican American mother actually cried when she said she wanted to be an actress... being the child of a Caribbean mom... I could see that! Of course her parents are extremely proud of her hard fought successes. When my son said he wanted to be an artist, I think I countered with lawyer.
Confirmation premieres Saturday, April 18 at 8:00 pm EST.Add a comment
I created this parody for my Copyrights class at Howard University School of Law. Photo credit: Eva Greene Wilson
A long time ago, in a land not that far away, I was a single mom of one adorable little boy. When I tell you he was cute? Laaaahhhhdamercy he was cute. That little face could get me to do just about anything… except budge on that 8:00 bedtime.
Is bedtime like THIS at your house? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kmq9fqAnjG8
For all my years as a parent, I have stuck to the 8:00 bedtime. The night time routine has changed, but if we can manage it, we do something with all of the kids before lights out. It usually involves some sort of party type behavior... Here are some of my favorite activities that lead to a peaceful goodnight.
1. Think. When the kids were toddlers, we either read bedtime stories or did flash cards while they were in their beds. You would think that turning the lights off and making everything quiet would help them sleep more than being quizzed or asked to make up alternative endings to stories, but after 15 minutes of flashcards at the end of a long day… everybody is KO’d.
2. Laugh. Many nights we turn off the lights and tell “switch stories.” Each person gets 15 words or a certain number of seconds to tell their part of a story, and then it’s the next person’s turn to continue the story. The only rule is that it has to be funny, not gross or scary, only funny. I’ve been told that making people laugh is one of the hardest jobs. Apparently it really is exhausting, and will have the kids out like a light.
3. Dance. That is how we deal with that sudden, curious burst of energy that some kids get before bedtime. We turn on the soca, and challenge them to a dance off. At the end of 20 minutes of laughing at us, jumping and waving, muscles are tired, energy is drained, and they pretty much fall asleep in the second round while waiting for their turn to tear up the dance floor.
My first born has gone from toddler to teen, and the 8:00 bedtime isn’t really a thing anymore, but he still gets in on the activities. You are never too old to hear your mom read Fox in Socks.
Update! The video has been featured on...
How cool is that?! Thanks so much for sharing the video :)
Do you dread bedtime? Do you end up giving up on putting the kids to bed just to keep the peace? What are your favorite strategies to make bedtime a breeze? Share your tips in the comments!Add a comment
I couldn't imagine my life without sports. While I wasn't particularly good at the myriad of sports that I tried (basketball, volleyball, soccer, tennis, horseback riding, or swimming), I was blessed with the opportunity to try. I had the proper equipment, coaches, and facilities to ensure that if I did happen to be any good at something, it would be recognized and nurtured.
My son Evan, @paceofspace on Twitter and Instagram, is a member of the Beaches Teen Advisory Panel. Part of his duties as a panel member is to encourage people to participate in programs that benefit the Caribbean through the Sandals Foundation. He and the panel have visited Turks and Caicos, donated books and school supplies to a school there, and read to the children to help raise awareness of the Sandals Foundation's Reading Road Trip initiative. Now, Evan and the Beaches Teen Advisory Panel are working with the Sandals Foundation and Dwyane Wade's Wade's World Foundation on the Game Changer non-profit initiative to help children in the Caribbean to get upgraded and refurbished sports courts, afternoon training and coaching sessions, sports equipment, apparel, and mentoring.
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About the Game Changer Initiative:
The Sandals Foundation, the philanthropic arm Sandals and Beaches Resorts, has partnered with Wade's World foundation, the charity of the three-time NBA Champion, Dwyane Wade of the Miami Heat, on Game Changer. Game Changer is an integrated sports program aimed to provide underprivileged youth in the Caribbean and South Florida with access to planned sports and recreation. Click here to donate - put "donating for Evan" in the comments: https://www.gofundme.com/tapgamechanger
About the Beaches Teen Advisory Panel:
The Beaches Resorts Teen Advisory Panel (TAP) invites influential teens from all over the world to hone in on what teens are looking for at Beaches Resorts and help to create the ultimate teen experience from amenities to activities. In the words of the founder of TAP, Sabrina Steward, TAP is THE source of teen intelligence. Learn more here: http://www.beaches.com/vacation/teen-advisory-panel/
Disclosure: As a part of the Beaches Teen Advisory Panel, Evan was given the basketball used in the video and other compensation. As always, our opinions are our own.Add a comment
To celebrate Women's History Month, I joined The Student and Professional Organization of Trinidad and Tobago on Twitter to talk about blogging, business, and Caribbean Parenting.
The "SPOTT" is an organization that emphasizes building connections with Trinidad and Tobago students abroad and professionals at home by providing a space for Trinidadian students and professionals to build lasting professional relationships that contribute to their personal and professional development. Check out the full conversation on Storify at: https://storify.com/MiksWrites/spottchats-with-socamom.
See some of the questions and my answers from the chat below.
@The_SPOTT: @SocaMomDC you celebrating 5yrs! Congrats! What inspired you to start blogging? #spottchats
SocaMom®: I saw how hard it was to connect my kids to the #Caribbean community in the US, & I knew I wasn't alone. #spottchats
SocaMom®: Once I had a few connections, I used the blog to share with other moms like me. #spottchats
@The_SPOTT: Do you believe that it is harder to be a parent now than it was for your parents generation in the US?@SocaMomDC #spottchats
SocaMom®: I think it is harder 'cause everyone is in everyone else's business. Even if you don't put it out there. #spottchats
SocaMom®: Everyone has advice on how you should do everything. Without social media, they were free to parent. #spottchatsAdd a comment Read more...
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Chantal Miller: What I want to know is, what were you listening to in your home, in New York?
Phife Dawg: Aw man... Lord Kitchener... the Mighty Sparrow... Peter Tosh...
I am blessed to be attending one of the most amazing law schools in the world, one that not only teaches you the law, but teaches you where the law comes from and why it matters. I have a class that discusses intellectual property and hip hop, and one of the presentations was about the influence of Caribbean culture on hip hop. This was one of the videos that was shown in that class.
I grew up listening to A Tribe Called Quest, and the news of Phife Dawg's passing was heard to read and process.
"Here's a funky introduction of how nice I am, tell your mother, tell your father, send a telegram..."
Malik Isaac Taylor was born on November 20, 1970. He was known as the "Five Foot Assassin" and "The Five Footer" because of his short stature. But how his it that this 5'3" rap legend ended up in not one, but two NBA video games as a character?
He was a sports junkie, and frequently 'scoped (Periscope) to share his thoughts with fans. He had a sports talk show, and appeared on several other talk shows, like ESPN, to share his opinions on sports and rap - often combining the two.
It was no secret what a proud Trini he was. In a piece on ElectronicBeats.net. Phife talks about his mom, his dad, and his Trinidadian roots.Add a comment Read more...
As part of AT&T’s 28 days program, I was asked to investigate my moments that mattered in my own history. I worked with my family to create this video. Throughout the month, AT&T has shared the inspiring stories of African American pioneer and trailblazers, and some of you have shared your moments that mattered on social media using the hashtag #att28days.
It’s the last moments of the 29th - the end of the month, and I hope that by sharing my final post in the campaign at the end of the month, inspires you to continue to research your family history and discover the moments that matter in your life. It doesn’t end here. It starts here.
Black history month is important to all of us, but I feel a special connection to the celebration as a first generation American. My family’s history here is a little more than 50 years. My parents moved here in the 1960’s to continue their education.
For African Americans who have been here for generations, since slavery, the move here to America was not born out of a chance at a better life. While our exit from Africa into slavery in the Americas was the same, after that, our histories split. But when we move here, because of what we look like and our common ancestry, our histories and our contributions to the struggle for equality in America merge again.
Without the work of African Americans like Thurgood Marshall and Martin Luther King, Jr., and Caribbean Americans like marcus garvey and stokely Carmichael could my parents have come here and participated in the American dream? I look at where I am – herein the United States with my family and I feel so blessed to be here. The country is far from perfect, I still flinch every time my son wants to leave the house in a hoodie, but I have to think my life would be different if my dad hadn’t gotten on that plane.
In this video, I asked my dad about a moment that mattered to me and my family… His decision to come to the United States to pursue his education.
Many thanks to AT&T for sponsoring this video as part of the 28 days program. Be sure to subscribe to the channel because throughout the year, I’ll be sharing more of my dad’s story and the stories of other Caribbean people who have made America home.
Participate in #ATT28Days on the web by following the hashtag and visiting 28days.att.com
This post was sponsored by AT&T. I was compensated. All opinions are my own.Add a comment
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