Nails, hairdo, fresh cut, outfit, getting selfie ready… partying is time consuming, but the right one can be worth everything you did to prepare. Beyond the daily soca dance parties with the kids in the house, I don’t party all that much. I look at the flyers and invitations and think, “will it be worth my time, money, and/or energy?” I mean, I am a mom of three, so all of the aforementioned resources are precious and limited.
So you bought an outfit for the white party, only to find you should have worn black because the party dead?
When you are considering whether or not you will go to the week’s festivities around Carnival, you do the parent calculation…
Let’s say… 3 fetes x $150 each (yes, they are that much) = $450…
- That’s a month’s worth of groceries.
- That is phone bill for land line and cell… TV and internet too. I can even throw in the premium channel splurge that gets me Insecure and Power.
- That is gymnastics lessons for how many months?
- That is two months of travel soccer dues.
- That’s an end of summer cookout.
- That’s a cruise to the Bahamas.
- That is (almost) three months of karate.
- That is six months of a GOOD gym membership.
- That’s a lot of paint for the house… I need to paint.
- That is electricity, gas, water, and trash for nearly two months.
- That is four date nights with the hubby.
- That is twice a month maid service for two months (as if that was really a thing, but paying that much for a party can make you feel like you have rich people problems).
- That’s three months of lawn care (now that the oldest is in college).
- That’s ten private music lessons.
- That’s almost four years of Netflix!
So you can see how choosing the wrong party, and letting $450 go to waste could be devastating. On Caribbean Mom Chat, we talked with Deanna, AKA @dyschick about how to choose the BEST parties so as not to be living in regret about your choice to spend your hard earned money for a fete.
So you paid good money for your ticket and the headliner isn’t who you thought it was… DJ is questionable… and the dance floor is clean, clean, CLEAN? Let’s never let this happen again.
Twitter chat attendees chimed in with their ideas and shared their experiences as well.
Here is some of @DysChick’s advice to help you find the best #Caribbean party… click on the GO TO THIS TWEET to see other responses and comments. Click on the hashtag to see more tweets from the chat.
Q1: @dyschick, if I don’t know anyone in the city where I plan to party, where do I get information? #CaribbeanMomChat
— Eva Wilson/SocaMom® (@SocaMomDC) GO TO THIS TWEET
A1: Good one! Team Soca. com is the best place to start. Most #soca djs are affiliated and will post their flyers on the site. #CaribbeanMomChat
— DysChick (@dyschick) GO TO THIS TWEET
A1: You can also search the keyword “soca” on Eventbrite or Ticketgateway to see what’s happening in your city.
— DysChick (@dyschick) GO TO THIS TWEET
Q2: I want to make the most of my research… who do I follow on social media, the DJ, the promoter, or the performer? #CaribbeanMomChat
— Eva Wilson/SocaMom® (@SocaMomDC) GO TO THIS TWEET
A2: I follow the DJ if no artiste is listed #CaribbeanMomChat
— DysChick (@dyschick) GO TO THIS TWEET
A2: If an artiste is listed, follow them. If they don’t promote the event, they may not actually be there. Scamma dem deh yah!#CaribbeanMomChat https://t.co/hE6wlS72kI
— DysChick (@dyschick) GO TO THIS TWEET
Q3: How early do I need to start looking for tickets for a #Carnival fete? #CaribbeanMomChat
— Eva Wilson/SocaMom® (@SocaMomDC) GO TO THIS TWEET
A3: Carnival fetes are posted MONTHS before the date and you’ll get “early bird tickets” at that time. Go to the Carnival’s website for a list
— DysChick (@dyschick) GO TO THIS TWEET
Q4: What is the biggest mistake that people make when choosing which fetes to attend? #CaribbeanMomChat
— Eva Wilson/SocaMom® (@SocaMomDC) GO TO THIS TWEET
A4. Surprisingly, they don’t check out the venue. An outdoor BK location has a different vibe than a club in the city. #CaribbeanMomChat
— DysChick (@dyschick) GO TO THIS TWEET
Q5: How much is too much to pay for a #Caribbean fete? #CaribbeanMomChat
— Eva Wilson/SocaMom® (@SocaMomDC) GO TO THIS TWEET
A5. This varies. If you are new, pay what you can afford to lose. Meaning, if the party sucks you won’t be bitter & broke #CaribbeanMomChat
— DysChick (@dyschick) GO TO THIS TWEET
Q6: How do I prepare my American friends for a #Caribbean fete? How do I deal with sticker shock? #CaribbeanMomChat
— Eva Wilson/SocaMom® (@SocaMomDC) GO TO THIS TWEET
A6. Get them ready for fun, paint/powder, strangers dancing w/o asking. Just get them ready to just go with the flow. #CaribbeanMomChat
— DysChick (@dyschick) GO TO THIS TWEET
Q7: Rank these in terms of the most for my money and most fun… white party, boat ride, silent party, cooler fete, rave… #CaribbeanMomChat
— Eva Wilson/SocaMom® (@SocaMomDC) GO TO THIS TWEET >
A7. Rave, Silent Party, Boat Ride, White Party. Silent parties can be really fun or really boring. #CaribbeanMomChat
— DysChick (@dyschick) GO TO THIS TWEET
A7: White parties tend to have people acting stush to keep their clothes clean
— DysChick (@dyschick) GO TO THIS TWEET
A7: There are exceptions. RisenShine on Miami Carnival Friday is dope! It’s an all-white beach party by@B2BENT & @Thewassione #CaribbeanMomChat
— DysChick (@dyschick) GO TO THIS TWEET
A7: Check out my review of HUSH in Brooklyn. https://t.co/YoFWuuB1F6
— DysChick (@dyschick) GO TO THIS TWEET
Q8: Name your favorite DJ’s – the ones that you would follow anywhere and KNOW the party will be good. #CaribbeanMomChat
— Eva Wilson/SocaMom® (@SocaMomDC) GO TO THIS TWEET
A8. DJ Puffy-Barbados, DJ Spice-NYC (@TeamSoca), Dr. Jay (@socaprince) -Toronto, DJ Rusty G (@djrustyg)-Bermuda #CaribbeanMomChat
— DysChick (@dyschick) GO TO THIS TWEET
Q9: If I want to party outside of #Carnival time, how do I find a good #soca fete? What is your favorite? #CaribbeanMomChat
— Eva Wilson/SocaMom® (@SocaMomDC) GO TO THIS TWEET
A9: Follow @dyschick! lol. My favorite is Dr. Jay’s #ReturnFete in Toronto after Trinidad Carnival #CaribbeanMomChat
— DysChick (@dyschick) GO TO THIS TWEET
Q10: I remember going to the “back in time” with my mom. Are there still multigenerational fetes? #CaribbeanMomChat
— Eva Wilson/SocaMom® (@SocaMomDC) GO TO THIS TWEET
A10. There are, but most of them are advertised offline. Check your local Caribbean bakery or restaurant for flyers. #CaribbeanMomChat
— DysChick (@dyschick) GO TO THIS TWEET
Participants gave amazing advice and shared their experiences too, so be sure to check out the tweets, replies, comments, and the hashtag to make sure you are ready, and to share your own thoughts. Did you miss Caribbean Mom Chat? It is every Wednesday at 9 pm EST on Twitter. No registration required.
Follow @socamomdc on Twitter for updates and reminders. Hope your next fete is worth every penny!