{"version":"1.0","provider_name":"Socamom","provider_url":"https:\/\/socamom.com\/w","author_name":"Eva Wilson","author_url":"https:\/\/socamom.com\/w\/author\/socasoca\/","title":"You Might Not See SocaMom for a While... - Socamom","type":"rich","width":600,"height":338,"html":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"LjSEWSmbvq\"><a href=\"https:\/\/socamom.com\/w\/you-might-not-see-socamom-for-a-while\/\">You Might Not See SocaMom for a While&#8230;<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/socamom.com\/w\/you-might-not-see-socamom-for-a-while\/embed\/#?secret=LjSEWSmbvq\" width=\"600\" height=\"338\" title=\"&#8220;You Might Not See SocaMom for a While&#8230;&#8221; &#8212; Socamom\" data-secret=\"LjSEWSmbvq\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script>\n\/*! 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I visit lots of \"mommy blogs\" about... well... mommy-ing, and often wonder if their lives are REALLY that perfect. Even when they stress how imperfect their lives and households are, call themselves \"bad mommy\" or \"lazy mommy\", then whip up a batch of Pinterest worthy cupcakes, take pics of love notes from the kids (guilty), and then write a well organized book about their disorganized, chaotic life - complete with well thought out marketing plan and book tour schedule - they still seem perfect. Baby girl took such care painting this leaf. I told her the paper plate was to catch the extra paint - she didn't care. She stays inside lines and is careful. | Instagram SocaMom was supposed to be perfect. You see, that's the thing about being raised by Caribbean parents, eventually you take those expectations of perfection that were placed on you growing up, and you own them. You take them in... like puppies. They aren't so bad at first - really they are adorable, endearing, and fascinating - just like puppies. Puppies grow up though. They grow into full grown dogs that, if they aren't kept in check, will shit everywhere, mark everything, and cost you more than you ever imagined that they could. However, like that full grown dog, you still love your perfectionism - it is a part of you - you feed it, you love it, and you give it what it needs. They grow up, they live, they die, and you totally forget how much trouble they were, then you get one of those adorable suckers for your kids. I have a little me in my house right now, complete with fits and \"nap therapy\". She takes perfectionism to a whole other level. I love these kids. But yeah, most times their outfits aren't awesome, and maybe a tad ill fitting? I dunno - they're having fun so... | Instagram Every time I go to my own website, I laugh a little. I look at that \"Cosby-esque\" image of my family, and wish it were real. \u00a0It is funny how not real that picture is. \u00a0I People are always asking me, \"is that your family?\" I laugh and say, \"no - I rented them.\" Some days, I really do feel like that is us. \u00a0We dance, take pictures, have silly contests, sing, and perform for one another - laughing until we can't breathe, catching our breath, and doing it all over again. \u00a0That's not us every day - but on SocaMom.com it is. \u00a0Every single time I go to the site, there's that family - still clean, still perfect, still smiling. \u00a0As the years pass, I can't remember much about that day other than how hard it was to get everyone on board to even take the picture. This Caribbean mom here? I had written out a list of each pose, decided who would be in each,determined what props would be needed, purchased the shirts, ironed the jeans, dusted off the shoes, harassed my husband for fresh haircuts for the boys, packed the props, and scheduled the shoot. Oh it was going to happen, and it was going to be perfect... and voila... it was. \u00a0That was SocaMom. Quirky, silly, serious, and anxious. She's so much like me it's scary. She says 'apparently' a whole lot too. Wonder where she got that from? | Instagram You won't see SocaMom for a while. SocaMom is perfect. She's nice all the time, is relatively kind, smiles in photos with the same rehearsed tilt of the head, tries hard not to offend, and even harder to get it all right. For the next, well, a long while, you'll be seeing Eva. \u00a0She's not always nice, is tired a lot, has kids who are far from perfect, tries to keep up with the cleaning - but can only manage the kitchen and bathroom most days."}