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How do you show your spouse and kids that you love them? \u00a0I grew up in a house where we didn’t say, “I love you.”<\/strong><\/p>\n

I knew my parents loved me, but those three words weren’t the way that they showed it.<\/strong> I married a man whose family said it as a matter of course, and I found it a little uncomfortable. \u00a0Once I had my oldest, I knew I’d have to get comfortable with saying it – so I did… to him. \u00a0I had no problem telling my baby boy I loved him. \u00a0Anyone else expecting that same verbal affection could kick rocks.<\/p>\n

Related:\u00a0Can You Hear Me? I Love You: Oprah’s Lifeclass with Dr. Gary Chapman, Author of the Five Love Languages<\/a><\/p>\n

I think the first time I heard my mom tell me she loved me I was closing in on 30.<\/span><\/p>\n

Once my brother moved out and realized that our house was the exception, he caught the love bug. \u00a0One day when I was in college, at the end of a phone call he said, “Love ya sis!” \u00a0I could hear the pause – I knew I was supposed to say something. \u00a0But what? <\/strong>I eeked out a quick, “Love you too?” Thank goodness that was what you said at the end of a phone call – cause I wanted that conversation to be over. \u00a0Our conversations were few and far between enough. \u00a0He had to go and ruin it.<\/strong> I couldn’t even remember what we talked about after I hung up, which was a shame since most of our conversations could be recorded and rebroadcast as hilarious radio shows.<\/p>\n

Not sure if it was a Caribbean thing – a my house thing – or what, but our house had a lot of love in it… just not a lot of lovey dovey words.<\/strong><\/p>\n

My husband and I talked about this in counseling, and we ended up reading this book together: The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate<\/a><\/p>\n

My kids are SUPER loving – in word and deed.<\/strong> They’ll tell you they love you in a heartbeat. \u00a0I grew up thinking that loving words were not just something you GIVE away. \u00a0They give them away daily – and it doesn’t diminish the meaning. \u00a0I thought that people who just threw those three words around, meant it less than people like me who rationed them out.<\/p>\n

Reading this book when we got married helped us to understand that words aren’t the only way to let someone know that you care.<\/strong> For me, acts of service is a large part of my love language. \u00a0I show love by doing something for someone. \u00a0I don’t respond to touch and kind words as much – nor do I “speak” that language as much as I should. \u00a0At least not with people other than my kids.<\/p>\n

Anyone who loves someone should read this book.<\/strong> It’s been a while, but I still go back and look at it every now and then. \u00a0The hubby also picked up The 5 Love Languages of Children<\/a> a few years ago.<\/p>\n

Do you know what love language you “speak”? What love language do you “hear”?<\/strong><\/p>\n

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How do you show your spouse and kids that you love them? \u00a0I grew up in a house where we didn’t say, “I love you.”<\/p>\n

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